One of the most common concerns I hear from friends, both male and female, is there is a lack of respect toward one another in relationships. While I am not a relationship expert I would have to agree with the majority. RESPECT is a powerful word. What is respect? Respect is a way of treating or thinking about something or someone. Disrespect is the act of discourtesy and rudeness.
Each of us is guilty of showing disrespect at one time or another to someone else. Plus, I would assume you have been the recipient of disrespect. A flaw I witness in relationships is the lack of accepting people for who they are and their ideas. Although it may sound cliché, “everyone should be created equal.” We should never expect that our ideas, thoughts, or beliefs would coincide with our family, friends, or co-workers. We are entitled to our own opinions.
Recent conversations with other singles and those of whom are married, respect is always mentioned. Both women and men desire RESPECT! Once this is omitted from a relationship, you are heading toward a downward spiral. Trust is germane in respecting the other person. If you do not trust the other person for whatever reason this will reap havoc and can damage your relationship.
The men I know have said, “We are simple creatures Bronwyn. Just give us respect, love, sex, and food.” I pondered on this statement and concluded it’s quite accurate. And, guys, we desire to be respected, loved, and cherished. If two people can simply agree to these terms a mutually beneficial partnership results.
If you are struggling with others not displaying common courtesy the problem may lie within you. It may be you do not honor yourself sufficiently to require others to value you. Your self-worth reveals how you allow others to treat you. Thinking, wishing, or dreaming about how you wish you possessed different attributes does not suffice. Does this sound like you? It’s time for a self-evaluation of how you are leading your life.
You have only yourself to blame if you are not satisfied with how others are treating you. Consider the following. Do not settle for anything less than you deserve. Evaluate and know who you are as a person. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and learn from your mishaps. Forgiveness of others will set you free. Only surround yourself with positive people and influences. Remain healthy and honor your body. Keep your mind healthy with positive activities. Speak to yourself kindly. Resist comparing yourself to others. You are unique. We are not endowed to be anyone other than who God made us to be.
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” Robert Tew
Bronwyn Ison is the owner of Evolve Yoga. www.e-volveyoga.com 760.564.YOGA(9642)